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If You Come Out Of The Closet You Can Be Yourself

November 14th, 2009
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Getting ready to come out of the closet is an empowering place to be in your life. You are about to embark on a journey that will define you in many ways that reach way beyond sexuality. You are about to claim you own skin as your own. You are about to explore what it really means to be gay in our world.

You are strong just by being who you are and you will find that there is an entire community of others who are just ready to come out of the closet as well. These support people can be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Yes, there are painful situations that can occur when you come out of the closet. The worst cases involve loss. You might be one of the unfortunate many that lose jobs, family members, or friends.

You may find that you are the receiving end of biblical donations after you come out, and you might even find yourself separating from everyone you knew in your closeted life. This is a normal part of the process.

There is nothing wrong with being gay and there is nothing wrong with liking who you are. There is certainly nothing wrong with developing your own sense of self. Be who you are. Find community. Find support. You would be surprised how many other gay men and women are out there in the same situation you are, whatever that situation might be.

Congratulations on your decision to come out of the closet. It means that you are ready to love yourself. It means that you are ready to accept yourself, and it means that you are growing. It’s a beautiful idea that will bring you to unexpected corners of your world.

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National Coming Out Day Is Important For Many

November 13th, 2009
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On October 11th national coming out day gives thousands of members of the GLBTQ community a chance to tell their friends, family, and mostly themselves that they are part of this community. It’s not a time for (ready for a laugh?) for recruitment for new members. The secret handshake is not plastered all over a secret website and there is no hidden door that will convert you once you walk in. This is about a community banding together to help support others through a difficult process.  If you have been wondering if you are ready to come out as a gay man or lesbian, consider this day as a special opportunity.

National coming out day is also about celebrating who you are and who you are growing into. It’s about loving yourself for who you are and learning that you are in control over your own happiness. It is most definitely about refusing to live the life of a lie and reaching out toward the homosexual community that is ready to offer you acceptance and support.

There are thousands of people who are on the brink of changing their lives by refusing to give the power of their own happiness and comfort over to those who choose to judge them. You may very well be gay or you might just be questioning your sexual identity. This doesn’t mean that you have to hand over your life for judgment to those around you.

Moreover, they often deny themselves the right to date, find love, become involved in a happy and nurturing life long relationship, and discover their own sense of self.

Many lives are changed by admitting not only to those who care about you but to yourself the truth about who you are. Most people who go through the coming out process feel as though the heaviest of weights has been lifted. The liberation of self is like slipping directly into your own skin.

It’s not easy to come out. It can feel like you’re about to walk into the lion’s den with a hunk of raw meat strapped around your neck. No matter what your worst fears may be, coming out gives you something that you just don’t have right now. The sense of self and identity that you get to grow into an eventually even be proud of. It’s more about admitting to yourself that you have nothing to hide, because you don’t.

Giving yourself some definition isn’t necessary in order to be happy. However, most of us find that this definition helps us mold ourselves into something that is truer to our own hearts, and there certainly isn’t anything wrong with that. National coming out day is a day of support for those who are ready to come out and those who want to know that there are others going through the same issues at the same time.  All over the world national coming out day is leading to a greater push toward gay rights and gay equality.

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